What are your views on cheating wives vs. cheating husbands?

[Shlane6456]

a cheating wife= a whorea cheating husband= a whorethe only diffference is the gender. nothing else differs

[Q7034]

There are plenty of people with both types of opinions (i.e. cheating wife disgusting pig; cheating husband=disgusting pig; cheating wife=not being taken care of by the husband;cheating husband=not being taken care of by the wife).You'll find plenty of people who think they're both disgusting pigs for cheating, and plenty of others who think both must have been missing something in the marriage. You'll also find people who will regard a man cheating as not as bad as a woman cheating, and people who will regard a woman cheating as not as bad as a man cheating. It's classic blame-the-victim mentality, served up with a heap of double standard. For the people who use a double standard, you'll have to take it up with them--they're hypocrites. But in any case, obviously, people saying that the wife must have been missing something in the marriage hit a nerve with you, because the last thing you want in the world is for someone to blame YOU for your wife betraying you in this heinous way! In my opinion, regardless of what problems are going on in the marriage, cheating is not excused. You don't get a pass to cheat just because your husband doesn't make you feel loved or you resent your wife's career or whatever the excuse may be. And it automatically assumes that the cheater is a rational, reasonable, honorable person, too. Unfortunately, people don't divide up that way. Plenty of people cheat NOT because they're missing something in the marriage, but because they're missing something in THEMSELVES that no marriage can fix.

[Lauren3547]

I agree with you completley, I noticed the answers on a question earlier where everyone was saying ,"oh you should try counseling or give her more attn" But if it was guy everyone says to leave his sorry a**! I think a cheater is a cheater and that Karma is a B****! These people will get what comes to them in the long run. I have not and never will cheat on my husband and I hope he never does it to me or that will be the end. Once I'm hurt like that I don't think that I could ever truly forgive him. I'm sorry about your wife, I know everyone has probably told you that you could do better but its true. You can do better. Find someone that loves and respects you.

[In_His_Grace]

It is my opinion anyone who cheats is being: (I have been cheated on by a boyfriend and he did it because he could AND also did so because he needed to fill his need for something he could not identify - my soon to be ex husband cheated because, being an abusive man, I was not emotionally open to having sex with a man who was emotionally abusive - women tend to not be able to make love without the emotional component being A-Okay...FACT).1) uncommunicative regarding what is bothering them about the relationship...2) insecure3) untrustworthy4) issues with themselves, other than being insecure.5) IF there are marital troubles, male and female may cheat to rebel....I feel for you. It is NOT YOUR FAULT. SHE decided to cheat. SHE IS 100% CCULPABLE FOR HER ACTIONS REGARDLESS OF WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HER OR MARRIAGE.Hope that clears it up some for you.I truly hope this can be overcome, via counselling, and developing open communication.It is very difficult to gain back trust once on has been betrayed by such an act - which is breaking a marriage vow.God bless and hang in there. Again, it is not your fault for her huge, intentional mistake.Blessings,K

[dadgonewild4751]

Talk about how "Women's Liberation" has changed the world.Give them a rope and they want to be cowboys!I don't know where you got your information, but my sources say that more like 47% of married woman have cheated on their husbands. My take is that woman have long been trained that all men are dogs and will eventually cheat. In todays society where more woman are playing the dominant roll in relationships they have also adapted what they presume is the male disgusting reputation. So in conclusion to the women that want to wear the pants ........... "a pig is a pig!"p.s. Statistics show that men are out numbered 9 to 1 by woman ......... So for every married man that cheats, there are 4 married woman out there do the same thing. WOW!

[Sunshinesunny1]

Originally Posted by Gaucho

I found out recently that my wife was having an affair. I was devastated. I posted a question about it and a number of responses explained that she did it because she was lacking something in the relationship, that I must not have been doing something right. When a man cheats on his wife, however, people seem to react differently. He is often considered a pig, heartless, or just plain stupid. Since i found out about the affair, I have done some reading, and it looks as if 15-25% of all married women have "cheated" on their husbands at least once. So what gives? Cheating wife=must not have been taken care of by the husband Cheating husband=disgusting pig. How do you feel about this?

People who cheat usually suffer from self-esteem issues. They act out on these deficiencies because they are afraid that their life will pass them by, and they will be full of regrets. Unfortunately all the pep talks and love from their spouse is never enough! And your wife is a disgusting pig Gaucho! Not you little honey... best-o-luck

[usarecred]

Wow thats really interesting. Thnx for sharing!
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